What are you supposed to when it all gets too much?

This is the question I have asked myself so many times and I am yet to find an answer? Is there even an answer?

If you are new to my blog then I hope you find this post helpful and stick around! If you suffer from any form of anxiety or fear that things aren’t going to get better then I hope that this helps you recognise that there are solutions to your problems and they will get better.

When you have depression, it is as if you are walking around under a grey cloud, everything just becomes unbearable and you’re energy to do anything becomes practically non-existent. Although, if you also suffer with anxiety it is like having a big ball of negative energy build up inside of you. So below I will write a list of ways to make yourself feel better, even if it feels like your world is collapsing around you.

Mood boosters:

  • Baths – especially with cute bath bombs and bubbles!
  • Read a book – keep your eyes peeled for a blog post coming about my fave books.
  • Bake a sweet treat – Tanya Bakes is my fave baking book.
  • Use the app ‘Vent’ – Links are below.
  • Journal or make to-do lists.
  • Go on a walk.
  • Visit a library or coffee shop – being around others helps!
  • Watch YouTube videos – you will learn that there are more people around you are feeling this way, you are not alone.

Self Harm Alternatives:

  • Moisturise yourself – pampering yourself will help distract you whilst caring for your skin.
  • Henna – This is the most useful alternative I have discovered, once you use the henna on your skin, the next morning you can pick it off. This is similar to as if you had a scab.
  • Watercolours or red pens – If you are someone who likes the blood, then using watercolour or red pens where you would self harm is a great alternative, without harming your skin.
  • Exercise – Surprisingly exercise releases endorphin’s, which is the same hormone which is released when self harming. Endorphin’s is a hormone which improves your mood.


Anxiety coping mechanisms: 

  • Use your senses! – What can you see? What can you hear? Smell? Taste? Feel?
  • Ground yourself – When you feel yourself going into a panic attack a way to bring you back into the present moment is by tensing every part of your body starting from your toes until your neck. Whilst doing this take deep breaths, this is called a grounding technique.


Disclaimer: I am not a counsellor or have any psychology qualifications, this is just my personal opinions and advice that I have discovered over the course of many years and I hope by sharing this that I help at least one person. 




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