When I was 13-14 years old, I suddenly went from being a child to having the freedom and new firsts exposed to me as I entered adolescence. I look back at my teenage life and I have mixed feelings, when people ask the question ‘Do you have any regrets?’, the stereotypical modest answer would be no. However, asking me that question? Hell yeah I have so many regrets.
When I was at primary school we all live quite a sheltered life, but then once we were thrown in the deep end taking the first steps into secondary school I was surrounded by cigarettes, drugs, alcohol and parties. There was a section at my school which was known as the place to go to smoke, this was my first encounter of the fear to say no. At this point I just wanted to fit in with the others, to be honest I didn’t think it was that much of a big deal so I took my first drag off a cigarette.
I was in my first sexual relationship at the age of 13, at that point in my life it was not what I was ready for. But I continued with the relationship, to discover that this wasn’t a romantic, sexual relationship but quite an abusive relationship. This is my biggest regret, I wish I had the guts to say no.
The thing with anxiety is that you feel obliged to make everyone happy in order for things to be okay and settled, but if they are your true friends then they will be okay if you say no to a day out.
If there are any younger girls reading this blog post then please know that it is okay to say no. Whether it is to alcohol, cigarettes, sex or even going out with a friend if you don’t feel up to it. You are your own person and entitled to say no to something you don’t want to do.
Start doing more things for you and make yourself a priority.
Chloe x x