Is Tinder just an app for sex?

Around 9 months ago I downloaded Tinder, I didn’t really know what it would be like or what I expected to come out of it. I’ve never really been the type to have many one night stands so I knew I wasn’t looking for sex. I feel like Tinder is the main dating app that has such a massive stigma about it. The main and strangely normal question to firstly ask a person you match with is “What are you on here for?”, just to separate the people who are after friendship, sex or a relationship.

I’ve been on a few dates over the years but only two that are from Tinder. The first date I will save for another blog post because that is a completely different story, which you will all probably laugh at to my disadvantage, ha.

So after my first Tinder date went horrendously bad and very awkward, I then started chatting to Cam. The good thing about Tinder is that it is linked with your Facebook so you automatically view your mutual friends with the person and with Cam we had probably near a hundred mutual friends. After about a month of chatting online and texting we went for our first date, to TGI Friday’s for cocktails and food. This was by far one of my favourite evenings I have had. I felt as if I had known him for years, everything was so relaxed and I felt alive for the first time in a long period.

Many dates passed and we got together, to be specific it was bonfire night and it felt so perfect. I have never met a man so gentle, yet make me feel so alive. However, when we first got in a relationship I was a bit reluctant to tell people how we met, in a way I was slightly embarrassed at the fact I chose Tinder as a dating app, purely just because of the stigma that goes with it. But now I have no shame in the fact we met on Tinder.

 

File_000 (21)I don’t want this post just to be me bragging about how perfect my man is haha, I want this to show people that there is no shame in being on a dating website. Also, those who automatically judge others for being on Tinder, stop being an ass and rethink why you have negativity about dating websites.

Leave your comments below on what you think about dating websites!

Chloe x x

 

11 thoughts on “Is Tinder just an app for sex?

  1. kittyp0p says:

    Good for you! I think that’s awesome (: people shouldn’t be ashamed, you’re totally right. I had a tinder once before too, not really looking to date anyone but more so for people to talk to. I ended up only chatting with one guy over the others cause he didn’t want to talk about looks or going further than just talking with me. The farthest it ever went was us texting about our families and he eventually asked if he could visit me. He lived a state away so I was shocked to say the least. I agreed and he came to my house (after a 4-hour drive) and met my parents, then we went on a lunch date at Panera. It was fun! Like meeting up with an old friend, except we were new ones lol and he had to go back home after that, but it was still a great day in my eyes and really showed there are good people out there (even on Tinder) that will go out of there way to show you they care. He and I talked more for a few weeks-months after that, but have since lost contact. Mind you…this was probably 3 or so years ago. Still, I think your story is fantastic and I too encourage people to knock down the stigma walls surrounding dating sites. Most people are inherently good (:

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    • chloeburford says:

      You are the sweetest, thank you for always showing me support šŸ™‚ Wow thats so amazing he drove all that way to come see you! I think if you ever mention Tinder people assume its just a place to hookup, when really there are people out there that are after the exact same thing as you are. Thank you so much for sharing your story šŸ™‚ X x

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  2. Cheila says:

    Rui and I have been together for over 4 years and we met on a chat room. We were super embarrased to tell people about that so the official story was we had met on Facebook through mutual friends or (if we were really embarrassed to say even that) we had met because I had done some translation work for him for his school project šŸ™‚

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  3. maggiesimplelife says:

    Aww this is so sweet. ā¤ I think any dating apps can be great if we all know what we are looking for and be wise. (maybe lucky enough too) I am using an online dating website to look for a relationship but seems like people just want friendship. XD At least they are not looking for sex only.

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