I am back! If you follow me on Instagram you will know that I have been away in Barcelona living my best life and I am finally back with a blog post and it is another chatty one about a topic that is close to my heart. Feminism. I have always considered myself a feminist, I have never understood why men and women are still not equal – it absolutely baffles me. Welcome to another preachy post haha – this is becoming a bit of a theme isn’t it?
We are pieces of meat to men.
This is something I am SO goddamn passionate about and the main thing I want to focus this post on. I have had so many shitty men in my life thinking they own me and that they can just use me for sex. I recently had someone presume I dress for them and I was like what the actual fuck? It’s 2018 and men still presume I wear makeup and dress nicely for them. Like how cocky can you be! On nights out when guys come up to me with drunken sleazy slurs and touching me up I completely brush it off and consider it no big deal because I expect it to happen. But surely that’s not normal? The worst thing is when an older married man won’t leave you alone all evening with his hands everywhere and won’t take no for an answer – just get some respect and fuck off.
Men have to foot the bill.
I have heard so many horror stories from my dad about awful dates and the amount of money he has thrown on food and drink is ridiculous. It is nice to treat someone obviously, but the whole a gent pays for the bill thing is bullshit. When I went on holiday with my then boyfriend, my Mum asked me if he paid more money than me and I was so confused as to why he would as we both earn the same. As much as I love my mum I couldn’t disagree with her views more. Some women preach about being equal but then contradict themselves by wanting to the man to pay more, it’s so wrong!
Only men are allowed to sleep around.
Slut shaming seems old news now but whether I am out in town or scrolling down my feed I still see so much hate towards women who have regular sex. Women who sleep around are whores, but men who sleep around don’t get any hate whatsoever. Why is it bad for women to have one night stands but not bad for men?
We feel more pain than men.
I have two guys in my life I consider my best friends and they suffer with depression and I have watched them suffer in silence for so long. I have always been so open with my mental health and I know a lot of other girls are just as open with theirs, but society has drilled into men’s heads that they need to man up and that crying is cowardly. But they have just as many emotions as we do. When I google feminism the same sort of things come up: men should cook, clean, get paid the same as women etc. But there is absolutely nothing about the fact mental health awareness is still not equal between sexes. It’s okay to cry and express how you feel, it is not a sign of weakness.
You have to marry into another family.
I love my last name and my family so much and I know getting married will not change that but I dread the day I lose my surname to another mans regardless of how much I love him. I know that you don’t have to take the mans surname and legally you can keep your maiden, but is it socially acceptable? Not really.
I want to say a quick thanks to everyone who supported my last post. I was a bit worried about being so open and personal, but I am so overwhelmed with the love it received. I also had some personal messages that make blogging so worthwhile. I especially want to thank Kelsey if you are reading, it’s people like you that make me feel so proud of my blog.
Until next time,
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