Hello angels, long time no speak. This month has been full of birthday celebrations so I apologise my blog has taken a backseat, but I promise there are exciting posts coming soon.
The warmer weather is approaching and summer is something I get so anxious for because it means fewer clothes are being worn. I am really excited for this post as it’s been a hot minute since I uploaded a mental health post, so today I’ll be talking all about summer struggles and what you shouldn’t mention during the warmer months.
Never point out self-harm scars.
If I got £1 every time people either stared at my scars, pointed out my scars or questioned them I think I would be a millionaire by now. The other month I actually went on a date and one of the first things I was asked was why I am covered in scars, I instantly felt so uncomfortable and speechless. Because it’s like what on earth do I say? I can’t exactly tell them my mental health story then and there, after knowing them for 5 minutes, nor can I lie about why they are there. It is blatantly obvious what they are. I don’t want to have to hide my body during the summer and feel ashamed, am I proud of them? Obviously not. Do I wish they weren’t there? Of course. But it is part of me. So if you see someone out and about with scars, cuts, burns don’t cause a scene and make them feel even shittier, life is already kicking their ass.
Cellulite and stretch marks aren’t flaws.
I have spent so long feeling insecure about my legs and worrying about whether I have cellulite or not and I blame the media! In 99% of the popular magazines, there are photos of women that are airbrushed and over-edited applauded for their thin and flawless body and on the other page, there are un-edited women criticised for their naturally beautiful body because of cellulite. Cellulite is so normal and we should all embrace it, not photoshop it out in order to be accepted and complimented.
Don’t bring attention to sweat patches.
Warm weather means that sweat patches might make an appearance, but it so normal to sweat and I may be wrong but I think that sweaty men are accepted more than sweaty women. It is fucking ridiculous. Even though sweat isn’t the best thing in the world, it doesn’t make you disgusting, so quit being grossed out and making people feel even more embarrassed!
Believing that plus size girls aren’t allowed to wear shorts and vest tops too.
I have suffered from body dysmorphia for as long as I can remember so even though I am not labelled as plus size, I feel it. I feel like I will only be pretty on a beach once I drop a few pounds and I hate the feeling. I have heard so many remarks about plus-sized girls like ‘oh she shouldn’t be wearing that‘ or ‘she doesn’t have the body for that‘ and I hate it. Why do you have to be a certain size to be allowed to wear summer clothes? It is about time we all feel beautiful in the skin we’re in, no matter what size! Whether you are a size 6 or a size 20 no-one has the right to shame your body. Embrace your beauty.
Body hair, everyone has it!
Shaving can be such a hassle, especially if you’re like me and you have to do it daily, so the chances of my legs either being a bit prickly or having a shaving rash is pretty high. But it’s not a bad thing. I have never really understood why men are allowed to have hair but women aren’t, so if you see a girl with prickly armpits, don’t be a dick. If there’s a girl tanning on the beach with hairy legs, who gives a shit?
Thank you all for reading, I am so pleased to be back blogging and can’t wait to go back to my normal upload schedule. Enjoy the sunshine and remember you are gorgeous exactly how you are!
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