Post Partum Body Confidence

I’m back with another body confidence post, these seem to be one of my easier posts to write as it’s more of a rambly stream of consciousness rather than a structured blog post. It’s been nearly two months since I gave birth and I am still trying to learn how to love my postpartum body. Something I didn’t prepare for was how much people would comment on my body after birth, whether its about how much baby weight I have left or if I am exercising and dieting yet – it’s so overwhelming how much my body is commented on. It was bad enough during pregnancy hearing ‘your bumps so big’ ‘are you expecting twins?’ etc etc. Pregnancy is the most amazing yet most difficult thing to put your body through and to be honest I didn’t realise how much you go through before I became pregnant. For 9 months you sacrifice your body and mind to your little baby and as beautiful and rewarding it is, I am struggling with how I look now I am not pregnant.

Do I miss being pregnant? No way. But do I miss my bump? Massively. Although my pregnancy wardrobe wasn’t the most glamorous and carrying around an extra two stone felt impossible at times, I miss how I looked with my bump. I feel like it was the only time in my life where I haven’t had to worry about looking a certain way to fit societies beauty standards. I was allowed to just throw on Harry’s shirt and call it an outfit and scoff that share bar of Galaxy. But now my pre-pregnancy clothes cling to all the wrong areas and as I am scrolling down ASOS desperate to find new clothes, I am discovering that everything is fucking cropped (not good for the mum tum). I am struggling so hard to find what my style is now as my wardrobe consists of t shirts and joggers – does anyone else worry about what the hell we are all going to wear once lockdowns over and loungewear isn’t an option haha?!

Before pregnancy I didn’t love my body, but I certainly didn’t hate it. I now have a jiggly mum tum, saggy boobs, stretch marks on my thighs and I still have some pregnancy weight to drop, in fact I don’t really recognise my body anymore. Although I know I am being stupid, my body was home to my beautiful girl and that will always be my biggest achievement, but it can be so tough liking what is looking back at me in the mirror. To try and pick myself up I have had another Instagram detox and deleted those over edited picture perfect accounts and instead followed those who are realistic and similar to my life. Seeing real pictures of post partum bodies as opposed to airbrushed ones makes me feel so much more confident and accepting of mine. Other things that has helped massively are going on daily walks and spending some time doing self care (when Poppy allows it of course). It’s so important to remember that you are perfect how you are and having down days after birth are so so normal, your body has completely changed, hormones are everywhere and there are so many post partum side effects you never knew about! But it will pass and what you have achieved is just amazing. Give yourself a pat on the back, you are doing great mama.

After speaking to other mums, it’s so reassuring to know I am not the only one who is struggling to love themselves after birth but also so sad to hear that we all beat ourselves up when we have done the most incredible thing. If you are struggling and need someone to talk to then please know my DM’s are open and I am all ears. Thank you all for listening to my ramble and also huge thanks for the love you have been giving me and Poppy – it means the world.

Until next time,

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15 thoughts on “Post Partum Body Confidence

  1. Chanelle says:

    You are strong, you are beautiful and just keep telling yourself how badass you are! Your feelings are completely justified and hopefully in time you won’t worry so much about how you look and the hormones will settle down. Other people will always have opinions but unless what they have to say is constructive, screw them and their expectations! Xx

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    • chloeburford says:

      Aww this is such a lovely comment, thank you so so much!! Pregnancy hormones really are the worst I absolutely cannot wait for them to pass, thank you for your kind words and for supporting me. I hope you are doing well xxx

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  2. crystalsandcurls says:

    What the actual fuck? Who on earth comments on your post partum body? How is that acceptable? I honestly don’t understand who has the cheek to think they can comment on your body, that’s so inappropriate. You look beautiful and your body has just performed something INCREDIBLE. You should feel like the kickass woman you are, Chloe ❤

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    • chloeburford says:

      I honestly don’t understand people, i really didn’t prepare myself for how many people would make comments on my body like what gives people the rights?! It’s absolute madness!!! Thank you so so so much gorgeous lady this means the absolute world to me, you are such a babe!!!! Xxxx

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  3. 50shad3s0fjay says:

    All I see is an absolutely incredible woman, beautiful on the inside and the out, who has inspired ME and who uplifts my life regularly. Goddess you are beautiful and I bet Poppy looks at you and sees SUPERWOMAN! You are absolutely amazing Chlo in every single way, you are one of the kindest people I know with such a loving heart, I wish you all the love and self love in the world babe. Thank you for sharing this post as I feel it will help so many people, and also – make people stop and think twice before commenting on someone’s weight at any time, I know people don’t necessarily mean any harm – but there’s just no need to make these comments so why do it!!!! You are absolutely beautiful babe, inside and out. And Poppy and Harry are both super lucky and blessed to have such an amazing mama / girlfriend ❤ we are all lucky to know you and your soul! xxx

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    • chloeburford says:

      Omg you are such a queen, I so can’t thank you enough, I’m so so lucky to have you in my life!!! I so hope poppy looks at me like that, all I want to do is make her happy. I’m so beyond pleased you think this will help, it’s comments like this that make me so grateful that I share my story. Thank you so so so much for being the kindest person ever and always showing me so much love and support, it really does feel my heart with so much love and warmth so thank you so so much 💖💖 xxxx

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  4. Hannah says:

    I have never been pregnant so cannot offer much practical advice or offer up similar experiences but I have heard stories similar to your own and cannot believe that people actually comment on your body when you are pregnant and after you have given birth! If someone made a comment about someone’s body who is not pregnant, it would be considered unacceptable in society but suddenly because you are and have carried another person, it is acceptable to make comments on someone’s body?! The only person allowed to make comments on my body is me and my doctor. Do not take any notice of them, you are beautiful inside and out, and everyone’s body recovers different from childbirth. xx

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    • chloeburford says:

      I honestly don’t understand why as soon as you’re pregnant or have given birth it automatically gives people the right to openly judge and comment, like I so don’t understand it and never will understand why people think it’s acceptable!! Thank you so much for reading and commenting honey, it’s appreciated so much! Xxxx

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  5. Chloe Luna says:

    “I miss how I looked with my bump. I feel like it was the only time in my life where I haven’t had to worry about looking a certain way to fit societies beauty standards. I was allowed to just throw on Harry’s shirt and call it an outfit and scoff that share bar of Galaxy.” this !! Not like I can relate in any way since I’ve never been pregnant but this is just…yes. I can imagine this 100%. Do not take notice of ANYBODY making comments about your body, that’s none of their business and they have absolutely no right to do that. I can’t believe people sometimes! You are strong and beautiful and this post is wonderful and I’m sure will be helpful to so many people – thank you for always being so raw and honest. Sending you lots of love .xx

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    • chloeburford says:

      Ahhh thank you angel!!! People’s comments are so rude, they were rude during pregnancy and only got worse since I gave birth, it’s just madness!!! Thank you so much for such lovely words, It really does mean so much to me and makes me so grateful I post this, all i want to do is be honest and hopefully help others by sharing my story. So I really appreciate your support!! Xxxx

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  6. gemmaajaynee says:

    I never even thought about people commenting on weight after pregnancy?? That is just not ok and why would people do that! I’m so sorry you have been finding it hard post pregnancy hun, honestly you are such a beautiful stunning woman ! If you ever need to talk I am always here xxxx

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    • chloeburford says:

      I honestly don’t understand why people think that it’s acceptable to comment, especially at a time when your emotionally at your most vulnerable! Thank you so much gorgeous, I appreciate that so incredibly much xxxx

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